I bought David Allen’s book a while ago, but it’s still sitting on my shelf. Getting Things Done hasn’t got done, yet, apparently.
The book anyway.
I feel like kind of an asshole, lately, I have to admit. I was so good, when I was so good at slacking off, at sitting around online all night and day, talking to my favourite girls, tweeting like my fingers were on fire, commenting on and reading blogs. Now, I’ve been Getting Things Done, sans the book, and because of that, I’ve been pretty away.
I barely know what’s going on in the lives of some of the women I consider best friends. So, that makes me feel like an asshole. And understand why a Blackberry or iPhone is so integral to having a life, working and nourishing those important friendships.
But, see, I’ve been having a life and working and working more and nourishing the most important relationship, for once – mine with Isobel.
Yes, people, Zoeyjane’s taken time from the Internet to be a parent and to be social in real life.
I’ll just wait for you to shut your mouth.
{You know, you could catch flies, if you’re not careful.}
Indulge me. Look at this and tell me what you see:
The calendar of a chick so busy, she even tasks her paycheque cashing? That has at least five things to do, four days ahead, and is constantly adding more? That schedules season premieres?
What else?
Well, if you’re me, you’d notice that today, there were still six tasks left. And that there were none yesterday, or the day before.
Why?
Because Google Calendar is helping me pwn life. And with such pwning, I am Getting Things Done. And so, at the end of every day, all of my tasks have been accomplished, RSVPs have been emailed and scheduled as events and I get to go to bed and sleep the sleep of a person content in her anal-retentiveness.
Life is working, for the first time in a looooooooong time.
You thought modular furniture made me horny? You should see me on Sunday, when I add in the next week’s tasks, knowing that nothing will get forgotten or missed out on because I had to put out fires.
Fires no longer exist here, man.
All there is, is a smoking hot calendar.
Yeah, I know, I took it too far.
{but I really do love Google Calendar.}
As you were. Thank you for humouring me.
Life is too real lately.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not taking for granted what I’ve got: a smart, though somewhat crazed, beautiful little girl; days to spend with her; good friends, who are like family. I’ve got it all – all I could ask for really – except for stability.
For the past nearly two years, I’ve had a cushion. When The Ex and I split, making first informal arrangements (then legal ones) for monthly support, I could breathe a huge sigh of relief. I dug in my heels and asked, hell, I bartered, for exactly an amount I’d need to be able to more than scrape by, with other forms of assistance. Enough so that I didn’t have to worry about paying the bills, if I was keeping my head screwed on right. He agreed.
It’s been an easy couple of years, financially, with only the two of us to worry about. Rent, utilities and groceries were the main concerns. People will always hand off kids’ clothes, regardless of our need for them; diapers always go on sale just as we needed them and had a mega-super-fabulous-deal coupon; we learned to do without certain things, like expensive beauty stuff and name-brand paper towels. I managed to keep up an expensive tobacco, caffeine and occasional-binge-drinking habit. (I use the word binge loosely, for the record.)
This is coming to an end, soon.
In fact, it seems like everything is coming to an end, soon. Too much change, too fast, all within the same six weeks or so.
In less than seven weeks I’ll be packing for the BlogHer conference, thanks to the sponsors in my footer – I don’t have the whole thing paid for, but my leftover expenses are a lot smaller now than they were. I don’t travel for a reason and I don’t shop at certain supermarkets for the same – I can’t handle crowds all that well. But mind over matter, I will have fun. Something I need to expend more effort searching for.
When I get home from BlogHer, it’ll be time to throw Isobel’s third birthday party. That’s a post unto itself.
In July, Isobel will be done with daycare for a month. The woman that takes care of her is going home with her family for the entire month of July. When they’re back in August, Isobel will likely resume her two mornings a week in the woman’s care, but the damage will have been done. I’ll have spent July scrambling to fit in 12 hours of work where there is no longer allotted time for it.
In August, The Ex and I agreed to renegotiate our support agreement. Meaning that logistically, I could have half the support that I receive now. It’s still a lot, but it wouldn’t be enough if I wasn’t making enough.
At the end of August, I’ll have to decide if we’re staying in this apartment, or giving notice to move to a larger, (and 99% likely) more expensive place. I don’t want to leave this neighbourhood, but part of me really quests for a basement suite or duplex that needs some fixing up that we’re allowed to do. With a stretch of back-, side- or front-yard, for her to leave crap all over that I can step on. For a dog or a cat. For my own bedroom. But, money is the biggest problem, as I’m honestly living in the best neighbourhood I know of, with the closest amenities, for the cheapest price. Moving will cost more than we’ll see as a reward – for a little while. But it would sure be nice to live in a space bigger than half the size of the first place I ever rented on my own when I was 15 years old.
During that same move-or-stay time, Isobel’ll start preschool. Financially, that’s not a concern because the government is real nice to single moms with low incomes when it comes to childcare. What is a concern is that right now, she’s signed up for two afternoons a week and we’re awaiting room in the five-mornings camp. That could happen by September, it could happen in the winter. I don’t know. If I keep her in just the afternoons, twice a week, that’s virtually replacing the childcare I’m used to her having now and paying $300 a month for – for free. Meaning I could still possibly do the twice-a-week daycare deal, too, since it’s the same amount of money.
This is all happening between July 23rd and September 6th. I’m freaking the fuck out.
I also have a new writing job and another coming up soon that, at the moment, are unpaid. They have awesome potential and if successful, will mean a lot to my resume. I also have a few websites to design – again, resume fodder (and, well, just fun). I’m also working on an ebook series. Mentally formulating what my portfolio and another domain will look like, considering learning Photoshop, still sitting on three different CSS texts, have the pre-existing two paying blog jobs, a need to shower and brush my teeth and am jonseing for a boyfriend.
Life is fucking fabulous, y’all.
I’m so scared that I’m going to crash and burn, and take Isobel down with me. I don’t know if ever before I’ve ever wanted to be taken care of so much. I don’t know if my current stress level will even let me allow someone to take care of me. I don’t know how to make it all better, besides just shutting up and doing shit.
So, these 900-something words are basically to say: I have a lot of stuff to deal with, I’m feeling like I’m going to drown, and instead of hiding and backing away from it all, I’m strapping on my shit-kicking boots and getting sweaty.
The calendar of a chick so busy, she even tasks her paycheque cashing? That has at least five things to do, four days ahead, and is constantly adding more? That schedules season premieres?
