Comments on: On being nervous

By: Zoeyjane

Zoeyjane — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 04:05:36 +0000

You saw through my fiendish plan!

And yes, the summer, we will dine and wine and such. Wouldn’t it be awesome if a rad show was on when y’all were here, too? I think so.

By: Zoeyjane

Zoeyjane — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 04:04:29 +0000

It’s not necessarily the BEST route to go…but I’m so taking it!

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 23:28:53 +0000

*hugs* I am hoping to go to BlogHer, but time and money are iffy.
Regardless, I am so totally planning to meet you in VanCity late June/early July, okay?!!
And I shall squish you gently and the only things I’ll say about food will be in regards to where we want to nosh together.
I have had many friends throughout life who are naturally VerySlender, and I think size discrimination is rude, no matter what direction it is being shouted in. ;p
♥

I think this post is a good way to premind people to keep quiet! ;p

By: colleen

colleen — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 23:04:35 +0000

oh yeah, i totally know. it’s almost impossible to remember that all the ime for me too.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 19:48:14 +0000

I would never say that to anyone… it seems weird to me that people comment on others’ weight, knowing that it is a very sensitive topic for many people. Or height, for that matter, like saying, “Wow you’re so short,” or “you’re like a giraffe” would seem mean too.
For me I am always nervous because I look so young for my age, and because of my brain disabilities I often act younger too, or at least in ways that people don’t expect an adult to act. So my moment of dread comes when someone says, “How old are you?” or “What school do you go to?” then I have to tell them I’m almost 30, and hear everyone say, “Oh, seriously? No way!” and know that they are going to be looking at me differently from that moment on. Just looking young would be one thing, but I am embarassed that I act different from other people, too. It causes me lots of anxiety. So maybe I should have like ten drinks beforehand, too!

By: Zoeyjane

Zoeyjane — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:31:42 +0000

I’ve gotta hotel room booked for me and a few roomies, one-way flight paid for, my friends will be taking care of the kid, and I’m registered for the conference, so yup. I’ll be there.

By: Zoeyjane

Zoeyjane — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:30:30 +0000

You’re both wise and good with the words

By: lceel

lceel — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 22:40:32 +0000

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By: Chibi Jeebs

Chibi Jeebs — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 18:02:15 +0000

I was going to say exactly what Colleen said: I guarantee that the majority of the people who comment on you being tiny are thinking about how un-tiny they are — I know that’s always my inner dialogue (however, I was raised to not say that kind of stuff in my outside voice *wink*). As for the cheeseburger pushers, I would assume the intention/thought process is similar, but I’m not sure. I’d NEVER deign to tell someone what to do/eat on first meeting them.

That being said, I know it’s much easier said than done to tell you not to worry about it, that it’s them, not you. But don’t worry about it: it’s them, not you. I hope you have a wonderful time (in July)!

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By: Zoeyjane

Zoeyjane — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 15:41:13 +0000

Logically, I know that’s the case some percentage of the time. But it’s hard to always remember, since I’m too in my own head, you know?