Comments on: Rethinking Unthinking

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 04:57:48 +0000

There are days when I want to call ThEx and tell him that I'm sorry for not being all that he wanted and for him having to take care of me for so long ... but then I think about what that could "cost" me and I refuse to do it. I'm big on the write-a-letter-and-then-rip-it-up-and-throw-it-away therapy. Sarah's last blog post..Gesundheit

By: .Ophelia.

.Ophelia. — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 19:37:00 +0000

The greatest thing about this is that You have acknowledged his feelings to yourself. You've been enlightened and that is a huge step for your progress. Selfish though it may be all that matters is how you are doing, what you are doing for yourself at this time. .Ophelia.'s last blog post..wait...they dont love you like I love you (seven deadly sins)

By: Maria

Maria — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 05:03:20 +0000

I don’t think you should tell him that now either. Not ever actually, but at least not now…

Maria’s last blog post..Suck it Up: Real Men Don�t Cry

By: coral

coral — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 00:46:33 +0000

Yeah, I dont know if telling him that NOW is such a great idea. I mean, I get that it get sit off your chest, and out in the open, but its not the right time. Sometimes just writing the things you wish you had said are enough... and I agree with K8spade... hes a habit you need to fully curb now. coral's last blog post..Oy, Canada.

By: Mrs. Kitty

Mrs. Kitty — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 00:39:02 +0000

Internal knowledge is great, and I'm glad that those classes are helping. My futile suggestion is to ONLY tell him if it doesn't matter how he reacts. Badly, awesome, with annoyance, with a bottle.... no matter what he does. Basically if his emotions don't suck you and your emotions into a tailspin, then and ONLY THEN should you tell him face to face. Proud of you and your breakthrough. =) Mrs. Kitty's last blog post..Teen TV Addict Birth Control

By: K8spade

K8spade — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 23:15:54 +0000

I wrote a letter once (ok, it was a sonnet) to someone I loved dearly, but the relationship just kept falling apart, over and over. It ends... "I think apologies now come to late to save us. Still, I sent you flowers on your birthday. Sorry, force of habit" He is a habit. And apologies will not change anything. Live your life, be happy. Don't go back. K8spade's last blog post..Settle Down There, Tonto

By: liza

liza — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 21:29:10 +0000

GMA absolutely, positively agrees with vancityrock girl. It would not be a wise thing to do, especially now that you are starting to get it together.
Please do not do this.

By: Miss

Miss — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 20:53:57 +0000

I think you should keep this to yourself, at least for now. Maybe in the future, when you are both in a better place, you can have this conversation. *hug* Miss's last blog post..Cluster*bleep*

By: Nicki

Nicki — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 20:38:23 +0000

It is always hard to remember, when the other person is being an asshole and doing harmful and dangerous things, that he actually has feelings. I think he'll like that letter if you give it to him... Nicki's last blog post..Happy (Almost) 4th of July!)

By: Tara R.

Tara R. — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:06:26 +0000

Saying it to him could bring so much to both of you... sounds like you need to say it as much as he might need to hear it. Tara R.'s last blog post..Distorted Images