Comments on: Visitation

By: Miss

Miss — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 06:18:57 +0000

I went through this when I first left my ex. I always believed I was the better parent to my son and I still feel that way. My son is 7 and he tells me that his dad takes off and leaves him with his grandma, just so he can go drink with his buddies. I can only hope that the court can help me with that.

Since most of the girls I LURVE read, you must be a good person and a great mom. I’ll trust in their judgement, till I get to know you. You’ll get through this.

Miss’s last blog post..Don�t be a one upper

By: Stacey @Real World Mom

Stacey @Real World Mom — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 15:19:40 +0000

This *totally*sucks ass! I can understand your concerns, and I just pray that he doesn't screw anything up! Stacey @Real World Mom's last blog post..Wordless Wednesday 6/18/08

By: Nicki

Nicki — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 17:12:08 +0000

Sounds so much like my nephew and niece's dad! WHen he's doing relatively well in life, he gets them on the weekends. But its awfully hard to explain to the kids why they're going to miss this weekend because their dad is missing in action, having chiose crack over them yet again! (We usually just say he's sick...) Or why, when daddy says mean things sometimes, they should just ignore him. Or why he blew them off on Father's Day because he had plans with his girlfriend and didn't have time for them. As for JDawg, he should be OBLIGATED to give you some way of getting in touch with him while your child is with him! Yeah, she's his child too, but he knows how to get in touch with you in case of an emergency, right? He should give you that same respect. Nicki's last blog post..Up On the Roof!

By: Secret Agent Mama

Secret Agent Mama — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 12:03:09 +0000

I just really want to hug you. Hug you so tight that you poop. Seriously. Secret Agent Mama's last blog post..Project 365 (300/365)

By: LaskiGal

LaskiGal — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 02:59:02 +0000

You know I get the whole cycles thing . . . but YOU, you are doing great. You are so self-aware. Your thoughts and concerns are in the right place . . . with your daughter.

“I also have no idea where he lives, how to call him or even get in touch unless by email. It�s none of my business, apparently, I think.” I KNOW that you are probably working on taking care of this right now . . . he needs to grow up and put aside his issues for the HEALTH and SAFETY of your daughter.

Your heart is in the best place . . .really, it is.

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By: Mrs. Kitty

Mrs. Kitty — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 22:21:14 +0000

I can't understand completely, but I'm a great empathizer. I get the panic of absolute lack of control over the situation. It would take every ounce in me not to punch him for leaving her with a dirty soaking diaper and whatnot. Your mission statement about what kind of mommy you want to be is inspirational. Perfect. And you ARE a good mommy. Super big hugs! Mrs. Kitty's last blog post..Negative

By: MommyTime

MommyTime — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 22:03:37 +0000

Must it not be a legal part of the visitation issue that you must know at least where he lives and how to contact him? I would think that would be mandatory. Can you ask your lawyer? I'm sending hugs as you deal with this difficult mess. MommyTime's last blog post..How Far Would You Go for Your Children?

By: Eve Grey

Eve Grey — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 20:39:49 +0000

One of my closest friends is going through something somewhat similar and has been for about 2 years so I hear all the back & forth legal stuff. Documenting things seems to matter, things like the sunburn & diaper stuff & also affidavits from friends attesting to your skills as a mother. Her daughter is now 6 & has a ton of questions & was thinking her mom was the mean one for awhile so Jen was counselled to tell her some truths about why he can’t have her more & stuff. Anyway, it does get easier. Your intense love for your daughter is evident. You are a wonderful mama.

By: Sandy (Momisodes)

Sandy (Momisodes) — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 18:19:13 +0000

I just can't even imagine. Seriously, my thoughts would eat me up alive not being able to get a hold of him. I really hope legal matters will at least help in that area. Hang in there. "guide, not teach; follow and lead; not be a friend, but have the openness of a friendship."-You really are an inspiration, seriously. Sandy (Momisodes)'s last blog post..Roll Out the Red Carpet

By: Mr Lady

Mr Lady — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 17:42:17 +0000

You are right to worry, but remember, the legal end of it will take care of the not-being-able-to-get-ahold of part. There will be SOME sort of info-exchange. Period. It will be in the court orders. You're doing great. It will get easier. Pinky swear. Mr Lady's last blog post..T Minus 3 and Counting