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Gut instincts, babe. Go with it. It's ok to do this alone without him living with you. It's ok to do it with him living with you, with rules. Just go with your first, guttural instinct.

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I also agree with Eve. I think you know yourself well and should trust your instincts.

In suite laundry rocks!

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oh, and i know it's way easier to judge from the outside...
but sometimes it's also a lot easier to see things clearly.

you're a strong independant woman.
it sounds like this guy sinks you like a stone.

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i'm going to play the pessemistic card.
or the reality card depending on how you look at it.

being an alcoholic is a lifelong problem, and considering that jdawg has done little to nothing to address his addictions, i have to say that having another kid and moving back in with him does not seem like a good idea for you or your kid(s).

i dunno... i just base my opinion on the things you've written, and i bet that if you went through your old posts from when he first moved out and before he moved out, you'd see the the same reality.

it seems to me that you've spent the last months emerging from the hole he dug you, and now you're considering jumping right back into the pit? i think you're smarter than that.

but really, it's none of my fucking business and it's your life to live however you choose. i just feel that everyone needs to hear my opinion on everything, lol

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Realatively new reader here but I'd say tread with caution and make your expectations known up front...

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Oh boy. Sticky situation. I don't know the history here, but it seems that if you need an entire situation to lay down demands and discuss rules and regulations, then maybe you are playing with fire. Be careful girl.

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Hello! Been a while, I have been doing some mind searching(havent found it yet)...So I am playin' catch up right now. This is one of those forks in the road. One of those, "I'd prefer to pick up the fork and eat pie moments"...(yeah so I am weird..) If there is even an inkling of the thought you are doing this, then somewhere inside you want to do this. Its those demons or the knowing of other person's demons that just make you want to stay where its comfy and you know.
Like BD said maybe start off with the cards on the table. All of them. And boundaries and work at it. One half of all issues in relationships is the communication or th elack of understanding what that is and should be. Start off positive. It does take work from both but it can be done. Allowing someone to blow off steam- or just be themselves...without internalizing it and making it our own. Okay I will hush up now! Off to catch up!

Maybe if you called it a "sit down" you might have the upper hand here?

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Do you love him? Would he treat you right? Would he be a good dad to your babies? I think you should only do it if you can say yes to all three of those questions with a strong head and heart. You deserve happiness, darlin. Real, lasting, happiness.

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In-suite laundry!
Yup!!

<3

PS. I totally second Eve

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Although I of course do not know the details of your situation with JDawg, it occurs to me that you are very much together in many ways already so why not get some of the positive things that go with being in a relationship? Those being a more comfortable place, perhaps a break once in awhile... dad. Even if it doesn't work out, you can't say you didn't try. I mean, right now, you're sort-of together anyway with a lot of the same frustrations & problems you'd encounter living together. That being said, you always gotta trust your gut about what the best thing is for you & the kiddies.

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You know what is best for you and the little ones.
Just remind yourself that people dont change so easily. Even if they think they have. Its only a matter of time before everything falls apart.
You seem to have your shit together now.
Ground rules are great. Maybe over the spring/summer you two can put them into effect and see how well it works. Before that big plunge.

OMG the weather is getting nice again!! We should finally have our coffee date. Im going to email you after this weekend and see if we can schedule something.

oh and if I came off like I know what I am talking about and I really have no clue. Feel free to tell me to STFU lol I dont mind.

rules and consequences would be so necessary!

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Bad idea?.... only you can decide that. But, ground rules do sound like a fabulous idea... be sure to also set consequences should said rules be broken.

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I am very sorry to say this, but in your heart you know a decision like that will most likely end up biting you in the "arse". Atleast now you have your independence and you are doing a fabulous job!

I guess I don't know much about Jdawg. Do tell. On-site laundry is awesome though. Like really awesome.

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