Today was likely the awesomest day I’ve had in a while. I went against the grain. I didn’t sit with my mommy ‘friends’ at playtime (totally got glared at and whispered about) and instead followed Isobel around and chatted with this other mom. This wikkidly cool, beautiful on the inside and out, supplement taking, pilates practicing, positive single mom. I’ll call her daughter TAB.
So we’ve had this great conversation and I am honestly so comfortable with her (she reminds me of stargirl) that I am just fessing up this stuff that I haven’t admitted to many people cuz I know what they’d think and say and I don’t need to hear that and I’m getting choked up because it’s a chokable subject and she’s just so, “no honey, really. Really, you don’t have to feel…” and sigh.
So there’s a couple of tears running around my face and children running around where we’re sitting on the gym floor and I durno, acceptance, without having to perform was how I felt. And then we decide to grab some lunch and head to her apartment.
And seriously, excellent conversation continued while the kids watched a movie, she peed with the door open, she cleaned her kitchen and there were no made up politeness boundaries. Like, she was totally cool with Isobel checking out her bathroom while she was using it. My own family isn’t even like that.
Then, still more. We decide to head to Caper’s – this like, natural, richer, organicy market. I’ve never been there, andt she wants to show me the gluten free stuff and the sheep milk yogurt. Best of all was that Isobel was constantly happy with her new friend – even though she didn’t take a nap, she was actually less of a handful or cranky than usual. Connection? She ate mainly protein and produce today, with very little wheat…will ponder and retest tomorrow
So I took a lot away from this day: it’s totally possible to speak gently to your kiddo, even if she’s a biter; putting on a movie for your kid and then cleaning your kitchen because you want to is not cause for guilt; eating less processed snack foods will free up more grocery money and therefore allow for higher quality foods; I am apparently totally loveable to TAB and so’s Isobel (as long as she doesn’t hit back); allowing Isobel to get bit once has led to me not getting bit once today and allowing her to watch TAB go to the bathroom twice meant something.
What was that?
Oh Yeah. My kid totally peed on the potty on purpose tonight.
